Communication – Reducing the Tension

  • By Dan Maxwell
  • August 2022

Leader Communication

Great communication is an art that requires learning how others think.

We’re not talking an attempt to manipulate, just trying to make sure they get what we meant. To paraphrase a common quip: what others think they understand by what we said is not always what we mean.

Here’s the challenge …. Communication is an interaction between two people who may have a different set of values, motivations, and desires, shaped by different ways of thinking, relating, and making decisions.

To state the obvious, not everyone sees the world our way. It’s easy to forget this and either misinterpret their ideas or dismiss them altogether.

How can we prevent this?

Consider where others are coming from.

For example, two people are involved in conversation. One is “Analytical” – think accounting; the other “Expressive” – think sales. The Analytical is trying to gather information about a recent sale. The Expressive is recounting the story of their great close! As the interaction continues, the Analytical becomes more pointed and cynical; the Expressive becomes more superficial – and loud.

What would happen if they paused … and considered where the other is coming from?

Analyticals care about specifics – numbers that feed the bonus structure. The Expressive would do well to consider that this impacts others in the company – and their own commission cheques. So, they could pay more attention to what the Analytical needs to know.

Expressives are great at creating buy-in and going for the close. This makes the business succeed and pays the Analytical’s salary. The Analytical could “suffer” a story or two while they wait for numbers to come out. Better yet, they could take a moment to explain how it works and the difference it makes to everyone in the office.

Imagine the difference in communication where there was less judgement and more understanding.

If we don’t consider how the other person thinks and automatically dismiss their ideas, we miss out on the benefit of the other’s input.

Like someone has observed: if we both think the same way, one of us is unnecessary.

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